Archive for November, 2008

New Beginning

November 20, 2008 at 9:29 pm · Filed under Adoption ·Tagged ,

Well it looks like we have an answer to where God is taking us next in this adoption journey.

A few weeks back we found that our adoption agency is closing their private adoption program. Today we got news that With Child, a local Chrisian crisis pregancy ministry, is ready to start a new adoptive parent group. We have been waiting for With Child to start a new group for over six months and it seemed to be taking forever. This announcement really came as a bit of a surprise because we had waited so long. Nowe we’re one of the few on their list with connections to the director in the form of a good recommendation by some friends who know her. That puts us in a good spot.

God is so good to us. It seems that, while we waited for With Child (and didn’t even know it I might add) we had the distraction of an adoption agency. Then at just the right time, He pulled that rug out from under us so that we’d immediately recognize the direction He wanted us to go all along.

If this works out for us we would have the unique opportunity to build a relationship with the birth mom and minister to her needs during the pregnancy. This allows us to begin on a very solid footing with the biological mother that could be the underpinning of a healthy open adoption relationship for the future.

We’re very exited about the possibility of a new beginning. There’s an orientation meeting in January that we plan to attend.

JPM

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Discouraging News

November 5, 2008 at 5:40 pm · Filed under Adoption ·Tagged ,

We found out earlier this week that our adoption agency is facing financial hardships and as a result they’ve pulled their private adoption services.

This directly affects our adoption. Our state certification is held with this agency and they have our adoption profile in their book. However, they will no longer be working with birth mom’s who desire to place a child for adoption. Therefore, our profile will have no chance of being seen by a birth mom while it’s in this agency’s book.

What’s next for us?

We’re not sure what’s next. We have some options though.

1) we can look for another agency to transfer to…one that still handles private adoptions. this can be costly and time consuming and we haven’t found another agency yet that we’re comfortable with.

2) we can take some additional adoption classes and seek to be approved for state adoptions through CPS. this takes some time, but the most challenging thing is that most children available to adopt in the state system are six or older. That wouldn’t be the best fit for our family because of our daughter’s ages. However, sometimes if you agree to foster to adopt there are younger children needing a good foster home. The risk (to our emotions) is that after caring for the child for some time there is always a chance that they could be reunified with their birth parent(s) and you have to be ready to let them go. That’s an emotional rollercoaster.

3) seek an international adoption. There is no country that’s really ever been on our heart to adopt from. That’s why we haven’t pursued an international adoption to this point. It is more costly, requires a great deal more paperwork, and takes a long time depending on the country. this is probably the least likely option for us.

Pray for us as we try to figure out where God is taking this.

JPM

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